Memory? Two
posted by Me & Me @ 3:59 PM
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What's on Stephanie's mind?
Sometimes God tries to teach me something in the small moments in life. Then, this other life creeps in and nothing is retained. It is time for me to merge the two "lives" and learn. Time to start remembering who God is.
Tuesday, May 09, 2006
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Author note:
"...practical applications regarding emotionally disturbing and traumatic experiences, and the toxic effect of repressing memory."
So it seems that repressed memory realy does have an effect ("Toxic") on who we are as a person, how we react and deal with things and maybe even how we see God or the world.
It would seem to follow that un-repressing and unpacking a memory and healthily tackling and coping with it might offer us a change in perceptions emotionality and personality.
Unpacking something reveals that it would be re-packed at some point, rather than forever mulling over it.
The difference would be that when you repack it up and put it away, it is done with realization and reality (many undealt-with (repressed) experiences tend to be reeking with un-reality). A healthy repacking requires us to come to a place where we are vividly aware of its reality, the effect it had on us, the ability to talk about it, and subsequently the healing process.
Unpacking is such hard work...messy, you have to clean up and organize what you have taken out. How? How can you take something intangible and do something with it? I am a practical girl... I need practical means to walk through this muck.
An experience my not be tangable, but it is able to be focused on from a new point of view. In fact you may analyze the experience in pieces and then as a whole to place upon or add to it a new objective reality.
for example: A person has a major problem sleeping at night. They wonder why. Someone asks about what they do while awake. The person recalls that at night they worry, constantly and cannot rest. They worry about the gas stove malfunctioning or a smoker neighbor or about a miriad of other things that could happen while they sleep.
It turns out after some unpacking, that a fire destroyed her home when she was a teenager. This extremely tramatic experience was packed up and stuffed down in. Forgotton, set aside, never tackled or dealt with. Mostly because this individual has to be the mother figure in her home, has to buck up and pull herself up by the bootstraps. No time for mourning, or being angry or tackling the issue.
Unpacking the experience demands bringing up painful experiences. Hurting again. Mourning. Being angry or sad. Understanding what should have happened. Being able (today as an adult) to state that "this would/should have been my reaction as a young person if things were the way they were susposed to be" This was my reaction as a young person who was unable to respond, but could only stuff.
And then...
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